Reforming perfect daughters, this is for you!
Last week, I had a conversation with a family member that really threw me off. They told me that my expectations of others were "too high." Without thinking, I laughed it off and said, “NO, they are not.” Because, for my entire life, I’ve had the opposite problem.
I’ve experienced people treating me like garbage and I would STILL beg them not to leave me. I didn’t know how to set boundaries. I didn’t know how to demand respect.
And, in that moment of standing up for myself, I was proud. But as soon as I walked away, that comment hit me like a ton of bricks, bringing up old beliefs deep inside: "Maybe they’re right… maybe I’m asking too much… maybe I don’t deserve more."
It stung, because it felt like the voice of shame creeping back in.
The truth is, I’ve spent so much of my life trying to be everything to everyone, always trying to prove that I’m worthy of love and respect. The idea that I might need to lower my standards just to “find someone” felt like a gut punch.
But here’s the thing I’ve learned: We don’t heal from our old stories by continuing to live in them.
“We don’t heal from our old stories by continuing to live in them.”
You see, so much of the way we show up in relationships, at work, and even within ourselves, is shaped by the beliefs we carry from childhood. Beliefs like:
“I have to prove my worth.”
“If I expect too much, I’ll be a burden.”
“I’m not lovable unless I do everything for everyone else.”
These beliefs didn’t just appear out of nowhere—they were taught to us. Whether it was from a parent, a caregiver, or the environment we grew up in, we learned to shrink ourselves, to lower our expectations, to silence our needs.
But here’s the truth: You are not too much.
You are allowed to take up space. You are allowed to ask for more. You are worthy of love, respect, and healthy relationships. And most importantly, you are worthy of your own love.
That’s why I created something that can help you rewrite the narrative around shame and self-worth.
If you’ve ever felt like you’ve done the work but the shame still lingers—if you’ve ever felt unworthy, no matter how far you’ve come—then you’re not alone.
This week, I want to help you break free from that old, toxic conditioning and start living in a way that aligns with your true worth. I’m offering a free empowerment guide to help you begin that journey.
You deserve to heal. You deserve to stand tall in your worth. You’re not asking for too much—you’re asking for what you need and deserve. And that, my friend, is exactly what you should be doing.
